There is More to Conflict than Meets the Eye

with Anneke Durlinger

Sunday 17th May 2020

2.30pm - 4pm


The word conflict stems from the latin word Con and Flictus, meaning together and colliding. Coming from the NLP presupposition 'The map is not the territory', is not enough to effectively deal with the conflict. In order for you to constructively deal with conflicts, it is important to distinguish the different sorts of conflicts there are. And, secondly, it helps to know what elements feed a particular conflict. Of course you want to approach a conflict in a mature and sound way. However, in daily practice you can often see that people either avoid the conflict or (the opposite) provoke the conflict. How do they gain from these different approaches and what is the underlying belief?  Based on the knowledge and wisdom of the above, how do we then approach the conflict in a way that leads to a win-win-situation?        

You will learn...

  • the different sorts of conflicts, which helps you to make a more accurate analysis.

  • your 'favourite way' of dealing with conflicts and how this relates to values and beliefs.

  • the potential of conflict to contribute to quality of the interaction and what it takes to actually realise this. 

About Anneke

As Fellow Member Trainer IANLP, Anneke conducts annual IANLP certified trainers training, Tjoys, training, coaching and consulting. She is author of ‘Handboek voor trainers, stappen ter verrijking’ (trainers manual) and co-author of  ‘Voorbij je eigen wijze’ on the subject of metaprogramms (Dutch and translated in English: Mastering Communication and traditional Chinese Mandarin). She has been an NLP trainer since 1995 and involved in NLP since 1987.