Do you know that the most harmonious and generative families on Earth have 10 habits in common? What if I tell you that these families, in order to get there, just had to answer a single question?! A question whose answer becomes a flashlight to illuminate this wonderful and simultaneously challenging journey of parenting.
The Power of the Heart
In NLP and Generative Parenting, we believe in the power of the heart to see the essence, to accept and respect, in freedom. The same heart that knows the way to deconstruct our beliefs and, in turn, generates new behaviors, creating a positive impact on the world around us, which has repercussions throughout the planet. The latest scientific...
When it came for the field of NLP to start modeling in a mindful and conscious way, they took the TOTE model from Miller’s The Plan and Structure of Behavior (1960) and created the NLP Strategy Model. That gave them a way to map the step-by-step process description for how an expert does what he or she does. That structure gave us the foundational steps regarding how to achieve a specific performance. As a linear strategy it established the essential steps and stages of the expertise - the bare-bones understanding of how the expert achieves peak performance. And while it is essential, it is also usually insufficient.
We need more. We need to detail more about what’s happening in...
Coaching has been THE buzzword in people performance for some time now. And NLP offers a powerful toolbox of tools and techniques with which to 'unlock people potential and maximise people performance’. But as coaching has moved from marginal to mainstream, and from popular to professional, there has been an increasing need for coaches to everywhere to ‘evidence-base’ their practice – and do so, in a rigorous yet relevant way.
Today the world of speaking is exploding. I have never seen so many live events running in my 27 years of doing business in the Personal Development space. Add to that the massive increase of easily producible and accessible videos on YouTube and this year’s proliferation of Facebook Live!
At no other time in history is the importance of your ability to speak and present so great. It will make or break your career or business. Delegates are no longer happy with “chalk and talk” style delivery. They are now demand to be entertained and it is so easy for them to compare you with others around the world to see how you shape up. This all happens before they have picked up the phone or...
I don’t tend to want to engage in business if the required amount of Hypnotic Engagement hasn’t been attained. Hypnotic Engagement with your Corporate and Personal clients is essential for bonding relationships that have the appropriate energy to make the magic - and of course results, happen.
In NLP, we talk a lot about Rapport and the process of Matching and Mirroring, yet none of that works (or any skill sets) without the required brain wave length to engage a client on the deepest level possible. Simply put, if the energy of the relationship is not correct, no matching and mirroring will ever work.
What has NLP got to teach us about how to cope with an increasingly Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous World.
So, what is a Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous (VUCA), well for most of us it’s the world we live in every day. This has probably been the case for many many years, yet the pace at which we experience it has increased. Perhaps for many people it isn’t the VACU elements of their day, their month or their year that they notice it’s the lack of the periods where it isn’t where we can rest or be at peace. The ferocious pace of life has taken its toll and is relentless.
So, the questions that I asked myself, when working with a large group of teenagers, most of whom had a diagnosis of dyslexia, was why wasn’t it ALWAYS working? For those with very severe symptoms, simply teaching them this strategy wasn’t producing the same results as when teaching students who were simply ‘bad spellers’. This question led me to my first NLP Conference in 2010, where I heard Olive Hickmott speak, the developer of The Empowering Learning: Jumpstarting Literacy & Numeracy process, on the subject of ‘NLP and Learning Difficulties’.
Many of us drive and are more than familiar with the dashboards in our cars. Not only do they give us an indication of how our vehicles are running in terms of speed, petrol usage or whether our handbrake is on or not etc, we are also now being presented with a hundred and one warning signals letting us know that attention may be needed in less than obvious areas (the inner workings of the vehicle). Pretty useful hey! Not only do they alert us to the early signs of a problem, we also gain a better understanding of how our vehicles work that enables us to either fix the problem or to alter our driving styles to maintain performance and effectiveness.
Common misperceptions about how the brain works can actually hold people back. For instance, it just isn’t true that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks or that neurologically it’s all downhill after a certain age. It’s hard to overstate the liberating - and productivity! - consequences of debunking such myths for individuals, teams and organisations.
Actually our current understanding of the brain means that optimism about learning at any age is the only scientifically viable position.
This optimism arises partly from a neuroscientific understanding that the essential function of the brain is to adapt and learn. Without this ability, we would not have been able to survive chang...
What we believe about the world and the people, we often defend with our most creative arguments. You might have experienced yourself that it is not so easy to ‘talk’ somebody out of his own certainties (beliefs), even if the disadvantage of this certainty, up to the level of causing harm, is evident.