Recently I have been watching a lot of online videos. I am interested in what makes a talk powerful and engaging and what very successful people sound like when they talk.
One thing that jumps out at me is that there is no such thing as a voice that does nothing at all.
Every speaking voice creates a response in the listener.
Most people are paying attention to the content but unconsciously, their emotional responses are more guided by the tones and tunes that underpin the content, than the content itself.
I have certainly heard talks that contain interesting content but are delivered in an uninspiring way. Also, I have heard talks that have content I’ve heard before but delivered in such an interesting and inspiring way that I don’t click away.
You voice is an amazing tool. Often, the way you deliver your message will be the key to your success rather than the message itself. And although every voice is useful somewhere, it is important to have enough flexibility to be able to convey many different emotions on purpose.
So what do you want your teams, audiences, clients or students to hear and feel? Or your partner or your pets! Are you conveying authority? Power? Competence? Or nerves and lack of certainty? When you tell people you have some exciting news do they really feel excited with you?
To me, the key to successfully delivering your message is the range and flexibility you have, to change your voice to match the emotion you want the information packaged inside.
In fact there two main things to check so your tones and tunes do not sabotage the impact of your words.
The emotional state you are in as you speak.
Mistaken calibration. Someone told me recently that when she feels confused about someone’s meaning, she sounds angry. I wondered whether she secretly felt angry, (with her own confusion or the other person’s lack of clarity). Or whether she needed some training to sound more congruently confused and curious.
In my online voice trainings and talks, we explore the component parts that make up a flexible voice and how and when each of your different voices are appropriate and useful. After all, you naturally alter your voice when you are speaking to a client versus the way you speak to your lover. Well, I hope you do!
Leveraging your natural vocal strengths and identifying the areas where it will be useful to expand what you are capable of and learning how to calibrate more accurately can be the difference between massively successful communication and disappointing results. And once you can tune in to the distinctions, you also get a much more in depth idea of what others mean when they speak.
For more information on my upcoming, online, voice courses or my workshop at the NLP conference please drop me an email on firstname.lastname@example.org